Bikini Contest. The other night I came across a video with this title when I was on YouTube listening to some tunes. My children spend a lot of time on YouTube, much to my dismay (especially my daughter who is 11), so sometimes video suggestions will pop up based on things they’ve watched. This video, I could tell, was geared for (presumably) a young teenage audience. So, I decided to be a responsible parent and check it out.
What I discovered was that this video was posted by some self-consumed Barbie doll wannabe teenage twat who decided to try on and share with the world all 30 (yes, 30) bikini swimsuits that she owns. Answer me this: who… the hell… needs 30 swimsuits?!? And all bikinis none the less! …that’s not very practical. Also, who has that kind of time or money? (Obviously not me so I should probably just move on…)
This poor stupid girl started off by saying how all of her friends were doing these videos, so she decided to join in on the fun (so this is a thing that other stupid girls are also doing apparently). She proceeded to show her viewers each bikini, one by one, and described them in detail, as if we couldn’t already see what they looked like (it was riveting, let me tell ya). She demonstrated what each one looked like by trying them on (offering a close up of her chest) and got really excited over STUPID shit. Thirty goddamn bikinis later, she’s encouraging her viewers to “like” the video and “follow” her on YouTube. But it was her closing remark that really made me sad and mad at the same time.
It was something along the lines of “even if you’re a creepy guy who just wanted to see some girl walk around in a bikini, that’s okay, you’re still a follower!” She then winked and gave the camera a thumbs up.
What the…………. fuck?!??
I’m sad that there are actually young girls and women out there who feel they need this kind of validation in their lives…. the kind that comes from complete strangers who care nothing about them but rather what they look like underneath the next to nothing clothing they may or may not be wearing. I’m sad that it doesn’t bother but rather excites this girl to know that strange “creepy” guys are using her to get off, but will later forget all about her. BECAUSE SHE MEANS NOTHING TO THEM and because she will be replaced with the next girl feeling frisky enough to take her clothes off for an audience. How sad that that is yet so important to her concept of self. …And that there are girls and women who think and feel and behave this way EVERYWHERE.
I’m mad that this type of media not only shows a lack of self-respect, but also a lack of consideration for the young girls who have been victims of sexual violence as a result of the smut regularly available on the internet to creepy guys everywhere. [Sort of as an aside, I was actually surprised recently to learn from a friend who worked in probation with pedophiles that when asked, offenders will oftentimes say that what they did to their sister, niece, cousin, neighbor girl… they learned by watching online videos; their curiosity got the best of them. I guess I always assumed these fuckers were repeating what had been done to them or what they watched happen growing up. But that isn’t usually the case as it turns out, at least in my friend’s experience. And yet how often do we support this type of violence that is most often directed towards women and girls by supporting the porn industry in some form or fashion?] I’m mad that I’m forced to raise my daughter in a world that begins sexualizing girls at a young age, exploiting them in a myriad of ways, only to turn against them in the end for getting old and fat.
So this evening I had a well thought out discussion with both of my children in which I very deliberately said a swear word. This isn’t something I do often. Oh sure, I’ll let something slip in a fit of frustration or hostility or if I’m just not thinking. Very rarely do I contemplate a swear word before using it around them. But I felt, after watching this video and others like it, a word that is taboo and profane to them was exactly what I needed to describe what I thought of this online trend in order to leave a lasting impression.
And so I said to them, “hey… kids… this video is SHIT.” I made sure to repeat it several times and continued to explain the impact that videos like these have on both girls and boys and how it can affect their perceptions without them even realizing it. Videos that are self-serving and attention seeking, that contain nothing but petty commentary and pointless dialogue (or just down and dirty raunch) just to hide the fact that a girl is insanely insecure (and why wouldn’t she be in our society) do nothing to enhance one’s character or improve the lives of others. It is pure and utter… SHIT. I just hope that none of the brainwashing has set in for either of my children yet. My 8-year old son just laughed when I brought it up (“Who would want to watch someone in a bikini?!”); my daughter insisted she didn’t see it and steers clear of those types of videos.
Nevertheless… this mama bear is tightening up on what she allows in her home. I can’t control what my cubs see in the real world, but dammit if there’s going to be a lot less SHIT around here interfering with anyone’s potential to be their best, most confident and most ambitious selves. I’m sorry but, trying to determine which of your 30 bikinis is the most liked by people you don’t even know isn’t very ambitious. There is a lot of shit going on in the world, more relevant than the SHIT you contaminate it with, stupid fake pretty girl!!