Finding Strength and Inspiration In The Life and Words of Leaders Worth Looking Up To

“I know that my country was not made to be a land of hatred.  No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin,  or his background, or his religion.  People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”  -Nelson Mandela

Just days after my country honored the life of Martin Luther King, Jr., a man who devoted himself to the abolishment of segregation and discrimination against people of color, we will be handing over the reign of power to a man who would prefer that we go back to those times when “America was great”; that is, when certain people were not regarded as human beings with inalienable rights, but as ‘things’ that could be dishonored and dispelled of.  That includes not only people of color, but anyone who is ‘different’ or unfavored; that is, not white, cisgender male, heterosexual, Christian, American, monetarily well off, and physically able.  Members of society have fought long and hard to force those with privilege to see the humanity in each and every person and therefore, to share what for them has never had to be earned but has merely been freely given.

It is a battle we are still fighting.  And now, with the new presidency, it seems we will have to contest even harder to ensure that the victories hard won by the likes of MLK, Jr. and countless others are not overthrown in the name of hate, fear, and ignorance.  But hear this: hate begets more hate; that is, hateful people do not respond to hate with love.  Hateful people, like the one elected to be Head of State, only respond to hate with more hate.  If those of us on the other side want our values of equal rights and respect to prevail, we must put those ideals into practice even when our adversaries decide to take a dump on them.

If we are to continue along the path of progress, we must ask ourselves: what can this presidency show us?  What can the government teach us about ourselves even when it doesn’t care to represent us or show compassion for its people?   How can we, mere citizens, become leaders of our own lives, our own families, our own communities?  If we cannot depose the regime, perhaps we can affect change on a micro level and thus be the change we wish to see in the world.

“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. … We need not wait to see what others do.”  -Mahatma Gandhi

Sometimes people we don’t agree with can be like a mirror put in front of our faces, forcing us to see what we don’t like about ourselves.  How can we use that reflection to become a stronger, more consolidated nation?  How will we grow to become better having been put through the worst?  Will human kind ever evolve to see only the spirit that unifies us all, making us one; not the skin, or the body parts, or the body type, or the clothes, or the sexual preferences, or the beliefs, or the language, or the money, or the abilities that serve only to make us seem not of the same?

Nelson Mandela began his leadership on a very different path.  Initially, he thought the only way to vanquish the tyranny over his people was to conquer violence with violence.  But after 27 years in prison, Mandela came to the notion that the weapon needed to end the war against South Africans was forgiveness.  And sure enough, a peaceful resolution was finally brought about.  Similarly, as Americans, if we are to win the fight against racism, sexism, classism, xenophobia, homophobia, social injustice and discrimination of any kind, we –the people– cannot use the same ammunition employed by the new majority of leaders of this great country.    We must err instead on the side of love, peace, and hope.

At the same time, we must also be courageous and vigorous in the face of bigotry.  We must make our voices heard.  We must stand united against those who try mercilessly to divide us.   We must march in the name of what is right and just.

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”  -Martin Luther King, Jr.

Man or Woman, how do you measure?  Black, Brown, or White, how do you measure?  Straight, Gay, or anything in between, how do you measure?  Rich, Poor, Young, Old, Able, Disabled, Native, or Immigrant…. how do you measure?  We cannot allow ourselves to become or remain complacent.  The time to act is now.  The place to start… is in your heart.

Jesus loves me this I know… unless the Bible doesn’t tell me so

On my way to work today I read a sign outside a church that declared “God accepts the unacceptable”. I ponder this for a moment and consider the hypocrisy contained in a statement like this. Once I arrive to work, sit down at my desk, and log on to my computer, I happen to notice the headline of an article posted on the Daily Dot: “This little girl was pulled out of Christian school for her tomboy haircut”. Interesting, I think to myself, that Christians proclaim their God, the all-loving, all-forgiving, all-accepting as the one and only entity worthy of praise and worship. But if God accepts the unacceptable, and if a girl with a pixie cut is determined unacceptable by a group of Christians, how is this not seen as a blatant disregard for all that their God seems to stand for? How could someone argue for a God that welcomes everyone into his kingdom with open arms, and then turn around and chastise another person for something as ridiculous as the way they choose to cut and style their hair? How are other Christians not outraged? Do they worship the same God with different rules? Why do we continue to allow this type of ignorance to prevail in a world that has proven time and time again that we are all made of the same stuff? There is no need to think one better than another because in the end, everyone’s shit smells just as bad as the next person’s.

Discrimination is discrimination, no matter what form it comes in. The Bible has been used to justify slavery, segregation, inequality among the sexes, spousal abuse, all of which are unthinkable practices and ideologies today (at least among mainstream society). And now, you have a group of Christians declaring that a girl with short hair cannot attend their school “until this child and her family clearly understand that God has made her female” and that as such “her dress and behavior need to follow suit with her God-ordained identity”. I’m sorry, didn’t Jesus have long hair??? Wait a minute, what is going on here?!? Do you think… is it possible… that these people are talking out of their asses and in the process resembling one as well?

Have they not heard of a trend? Or considered all of the social mores dictated by people, not God. I’m pretty sure it doesn’t say anywhere in the Bible that women had to wear dresses and that they were heathens and a disgrace to the religion if they did. (I’m also pretty sure men wore robes resembling gowns in Biblical times.) And yet, even during the time my mother was growing up, girls were not to be caught dead wearing slacks; even girls who liked to run around on their farm and play and get dirty. And now imagine telling a girl or a woman she cannot wear pants. It’s simply unthinkable.

At one time it went against what was appropriate for a woman to become a doctor, or lawyer, or CEO of some profitable company. At one time it was assumed that a young woman would marry out of high school, have babies, and stay home to care for her family. In that order and without exception. And now imagine telling a woman she has to remain barefoot and pregnant while waiting on her husband hand and foot. It’s simply absurd.

When you think of extremists among the religious, you think of systems which promote violence at the expense of innocent civilians who have nothing to do with their cause; people simply marked as “the enemy”. How can a group of people who worship a God for his love and compassion make an enemy out of a little 8-year old girl for simply being true to herself? We’re not talking about one person who acted unkindly and perhaps without much thought to the consequences of their words or actions. We’re talking about a collective group of people who had time to deliberate on what choice to make with regards to a little girl attending their school who decided to cut her hair. And the choice they made was an act of violence against the heart and is without a doubt an example of extremism inspired by fear among an ignorant group of people who somehow believe they are carrying out God’s will.

But I suppose it’s just par for the course. When the doctrine you stand by is full of truths and half-truths, fact and fiction; when the God you worship is full of unconditional love and forgiveness one minute, wrath and vengeance the next, there is bound to be hypocrisy among its followers.