I’ve given it some thought on this rainy Tuesday morning and it seems to me that the key to sustaining a nourishing relationship is being able to answer ‘yes’ to these four things: 1) Do I love this person? 2) Do I love them so much that I would be willing to be dragged through the mud in a torrential thunder storm with them? 3) Do I trust this person to be honest with themselves in addition to being honest with me? 4) Above all, do I feel respected and important?
I really feel that if you can answer ‘yes’ to those questions about another person, and they can say the same about you, you’re probably destined for truly amazing things. You are probably on your way to becoming your best version of yourself because it is through our trials with others, especially with those we love and trust more than anyone, that we gain the power (if we allow it) to rise above even ourselves instead of becoming wrought with fear. And by rising above ourselves, we can know the beauty of true love. It really is quite simple, and yet so complicated. But then, I believe we all too often make things harder than they really are.
I think we have to recognize that times are going to be tough. Insecurities will arise; they’re part of what make us who we are, each one telling a story about where we’ve been, what we’ve done, things we’ve seen. And they’re also part of what make us so uniquely divine. In those insecurities are opportunities for strength and vulnerability; for it is by admitting our vulnerability that we actually gain strength.
Allowing another to see us… really see us… opens up the path to love and enlightenment. It is frightening and full of uncertainty, yet still, this is the path I choose. Which one do you choose?